Family and Relationship happenings thread

[Derp53]

Sounds like you're going to be far better off without this guy Uno, I hope your move goes well.

[unokitsune]

I'm going to have to do it when he's not home. Thankfully, most my stuff is upstairs and he rarely goes up there.

[Archer]

I wish you the best of luck as well.

[DikaSmausha]

In a relationship, you are both supposed to be caring and supportive. He isn't, so dump his ass.

[The SheoDovah]

I'm glad you will be dumping him, Uno as he doesn't give a [&@%!] about you it seems. I hope you will be able to move the rest of your stuff from his place without any trouble and nothing else gets stolen from you. I also hope that those people will never bother you again.

[Mod-Loving Wood Elf]

If a man doesn't respect you then he's not worthy of your respect, and he's certainly not worthy of your food and money and company. I wish you luck and happiness in the future.

[Dohva.]

Not that the issue I'm about to rant on is anything severe, but I just need to vent. I've been friends with a certain girl for many years and I care very much for her. We were close up until 3 or so years ago, when she just started vanishing for months, not return my messages, then one day she'd pop back up. For a while she went through depression, so that explained why I didn't speak to her for 3 months once.

Anyway, she got a new boyfriend months ago, and as of this year I've hung out with her once. She travels quite a bit so there's that, but when she's in town she rarely responds to my calls/texts, or is always busy, or she blows me off completely. It bothers me a lot and my feelings are hurt, since she acts like everything is fine when I do talk to her.

So I got fed up and sent her a text message asking if we're still friends (this was a few weeks ago). Ever since then, she's been emailing me and texting me to hang out but I have no interest in seeing her right now because I'm mad. Its rude not responsing to calls or messages for weeks or months on end.

So I said screw her whatever and now she wants to know why I'm being weird. I want to be honest with her...but I don't want to stir up drama. Its not that I don't want to be friends with her anymore, I just want her to stop being so damn flaky.

[p-sto]

You'd think in our 30s we'd have to stop dealing with things like that but I suppose it never really goes away. I'm sorry for your frustration, Dovha. Honestly I'd probably be among the first to say don't waste a second thought on a friend like that. Then again reflecting on past couple years I have to say I haven't been much better towards most of my friends. Seems they have to drag me out of the house most of the time and many times they fail.

So now I'm just confused. My gut advice is to say you're right to be frustrated but at the same time I have a strange sympathy for your friend.

[unokitsune]

Thank you guys for your support. I start work tommorrow got some new crisp white shirts. I also got my apron and a name tag, but I'm not sure if I need to wear the apron... Anyhow it is a break from David! So long as he does not show up at my work I should be fine.


As for you Dovah, I used to be friends with a girl who ended up becoming Flaky. I stopped being friends with her though, she decided to abandon me to be with her guy friends, one of which she was trying to get with. Well she got with him, he didn't treat her right and hurt her, she was alone at the end. I hope that doesn't happen to your friend and I hope she can make amends with you and you her.

[MARS]

So I got fed up and sent her a text message asking if we're still friends (this was a few weeks ago). Ever since then, she's been emailing me and texting me to hang out but I have no interest in seeing her right now because I'm mad. Its rude not responsing to calls or messages for weeks or months on end.

So I said screw her whatever and now she wants to know why I'm being weird. I want to be honest with her...but I don't want to stir up drama. Its not that I don't want to be friends with her anymore, I just want her to stop being so damn flaky.

You know, asking if you're still friends implies interest in retaining that relationship. She shows she's still interested, so why not see if things can be alright again? No one ever fought fire with fire and won. If she doesn't stop being flaky, then it's time to forget about it. She won't stop being flaky if you start ignoring her, though.

e: typo

[Musicman247]

Yeah, responding to weeks of unreturned texts and emails with unreturned texts and emails doesn't seem like the best solution to me.

[Dohva.]

Its only because I haven't known quite what to say. I didn't want to blow up on her, that's not cool either. I sent her a text today letting her know that I can't hang out right now but of course, I haven't heard back. Whatever man. I'm reaching the end of the rope here with this friendship. I should probably just let her know how I feel and take it from there.

[DikaSmausha]

You should probably hang with her a few times and see if you both enjoy the company. If not, then I don't really know what else.

[Hissien]

I have a new beau! He makes me so happy <3

[unokitsune]

I will try to move out tommorrow. Dave just tried to sell my machine and I found out that he is cheating on me like I suspected.

[Ebony Dragon]

Wow, can he be anymore of a complete dick?

[Hissien]

Wow, can he be anymore of a complete dick?

Knowing what I know about him? Oh yes, dick doesn't even begin to describe him

[unokitsune]

Wow, can he be anymore of a complete dick?

Yes he can. I'm going over to the post office tommorrow to get all my mail forwarded to my mother's house. I will be hopefully leaving tommorrow.

[Dohva.]

You deserve--and will--be better off, Uno. I hope you are able to move to a place in your life where you are happier and receive unconditional love from someone that respects you. I'm glad you're getting out of there.

I've seriously had the worst day ever, and I thought yesterday was lame. The situation with my stepson has gotten out of hand, and my husband called me crying today. In short, the boy is being abused by his mother. She yells at him, mistreats him, curses at him, UGH that's not even a bit of it. The custody arrangement is such that he can't come live with us right now unless she agrees, which she won't. I [&@%!] hate that [&@%!] so damn much. She has caused so much suffering to my 5 yr old stepson and the rest of our family. Even her own family is freaking out right now and my poor husband is down in Florida alone and doesn't know what to do. The laws in Florida are different from here, so chances of getting my stepson away from his mom are pretty much zero unless we lock her down up here. But she hates Alaska, so she's never coming up here.

Anyway, we don't know what to do at this point. Our boy is suffering and he told my husband that he hates his mother and that he doesn't think anyone loves him. It breaks my heart that a FIVE year old child believes that. Sigh. I'm trying to be strong and positive but tonight, I finally broke down and called my Mama. That's when you know its bad.

[p-sto]

I'm glad you've found someone new, Hissien. I hope things go well between you two.

Uno, you know how I feel about this. I really hope you don't have to put up with Dave and his crap much longer.

Dohvakiin, that's really saddening to hear. It sounds stressful on a number of levels. I really hope that you and your husband can be there for your stepson but I understand that from how it looks it seems quite a lot of sacrifice will be involved.

[The SheoDovah]

By god, Dave is just a massive selfish dick! I hope you are okay Uno and really hope you will be free of the selfish [&@%!] tomorrow as well as moving out. He doesn't care about you as i suspect he is just using you. I hope you will never have to deal with him again, Uno.

[BetaB17]

So yea.. today was the day my dear friend that I've been sweet on had to leave for the military.. I at least got to see her off by the final hour..
I really am going to miss always having her by me and spending days together.. it's going to be lonely watching our favorite anime without mildliy cuddling on the couch... >:

I told though when I gave her a final hug that I'm not going to say goodbye. Those are for when 2 people depart No, rather I'll say it not, so all the more reason a good friend should return for I at least still would like to see in the coming future. It didn't help much that we almost hesitated for a kiss.. just made things a bit more painful.. but she snucked a peck on my cheek before leaving.

So yea.. Beta is sad.. not really in the mood today.. already posted a bit, but I think I'm done for the forums today..

I'm going to really miss my dear friend Liz.. </3

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[Justice knight]

Oh man Beta, the feels, the feels.

[unokitsune]

Yesterday and Today.

I moved out of Dave's house in one day. He wasn't home for any of it. My mother helped me significantly. We rented a truck, 14' Uhaul and she paid for while I LOADED everything alone. She is in a wheelchair and can't help physically. I'm using her computer because I can't use mine. I have no box for it and I can't get my computer desk upstairs because it's too weird to handle and it's too heavy. I'm finally out and he's allowing me to use the small car. Mother is going to have the van hauled. I found out HE WAS cheated on me, but it gets better, he's using a lot of money. My suspiciouns are that his girlfriend is really a prostitute as well. I told him a lot about why I left. My sister made a mess out of the house and I am currently dragging my stuff upstairs. I wish I had a strong able body to help me.

[BetaB17]

@Justice: Meh.. I'll live. Just not my usually cheery self and all
@Uno-chan: If I could, I would help. Manual labor not so shy. I've moved three times this year<_< I've gotten use to it. Hope things work well for you