UESP Forums

Anything?

Did I stutter?

yes you did, at least in my morbid and out of wack imagination

Yes I do. I think that early on in childhood, children are learning the concept of morality. They are learning what is acceptable through trial and error, in addition to being taught. So if a young boy slaps his young brother, he should be punished. This will reinforce the idea that this is wrong. If this is also explained to him, he should learn that slapping is wrong just because it is, but if he does slap, he will get punished. I think this applies to people in general; they know something is wrong and don't do it because its wrong, but also because they don't want the consequences. If there weren't consequences, I'd run redlights half the time, even though I know its wrong. But I digress a bit.

They should be temporary solutions. I stopped getting punished by my parents years ago because I had learned the proper way to act. When I did mess up and do something wrong, I was no longer getting grounded or sent to my room, I just had the "talk" and that was it. I was old enough to learn from the conversation without needing punishments.

Pretty much, because of the negative light this form of discipline has gotten, it has adversely affected children who otherwise would've grown up to be respectful people.

I know a nephew of mine who basically was raised in a double negative, no discipline besides verbal (They won't care after a while when they realize nothing will happen to them), and a bad environment due to the family itself. This latter part has been resolved, and he's getting better thankfully.

So yes, spanking your kids within reason should be allowed, I was spanked as a kid and it set me on the right path. There is a reason why these deterrents worked, they made us pay attention to what was being said and avoid the situation in the future...And from it we learned morals and respect. I think those that do demonize this practice held a grudge against their parents for doing so.

Short story:
I said something when I was younger, got smacked, learned not to run my mouth so much.

I think I got a slight hit on the back of my leg once and it was more the fear of being punished that made me behave. My parents did a great job with raising me and my sister, had some typical kid tantrums but my parents used different methods rather than hitting.
When I was about seven, I wanted a chocolate bar from a shop when walking back from school with my mum but wasn't allowed. I wouldn't move so after about five minutes my mum just left me dragging my sister with her. Of course I know now she just waited around the corner but I was in tears because of the shock and thought she had left me for good. A few minutes later she came back and dragged me home and of course I behaved like an angel for the rest of the week.

I think if the child really acting out then a slight smack on the thigh should be fine, but it shouldn't be the only solution. I can think of times where I deserved a smack but a talking-to by a red-faced parent was usually enough.

Spanking seems fine to me IF you're doing it properly. If you do it to discipline your kid and make them remember what they did wrong, then I can't see why any mental damage would arise, unless you hit them too hard. Enough for them to remember should be fine, IMO, but if they have much pain afterwards you may have gone too far. Also, spanking is probably the oldest form of discipline, and seems to have worked so far. It's spoken of in the Bible, I believe.
Spanking out of rage is stupid, but I've seen it happen a lot. That could probably mess up your kid.
"YOU BROKE MY PHONE ACCIDENTALLY? WTF *WHACKWHACKWHACK* ARROGANT BRAT THAT WILL TEACH YOU THAT IT IS BAD TO BREAK PHONES! BUT I'M DOING THIS BECAUSE I LOVE YOU. IT HURTS ME A LOT MORE THAN YOU! *WHACKWHACKWHACK*" = Not cool.

If I have a kid/kids, which I hope not to, I'm not sure if I'll spank them. There are other forms of discipline to employ.

Are men and women spanked at work when they don't follow the rules of the business? No. If you don't harm adult buttoxes for doing something wrong, don't harm a child. Instead of "if I do this I will feel pain," the child should think something like "if I do this I can't play my Mario games for two weeks."

That's a silly argument to make, considering that spanking only works on little children.

Adults have bills to worry about.

Yes, adults do get spanked... it is called being fired.

Unfortunatly, you cannot fire your children... or set them on fire either.

i get the odd feeling you would set your kids on fire......

...only to teach them the drop and roll techique. ...so they will be able to survive being set on fire.

Plus, it is a good Ninja evasion techique, as it is harder for them to catch you (hold on) when you are on fire.

wouldn't that kill you in the process?

Only if you do not build up a tollerance for it.

This is why I would feed them poisons as well.

I really hope you are joking. Getting fired and paying bills cause no physical pain. Try to imagine your boss hitting your ass with a a paddle because you weren't working efficiently.

mental images man.....

...actually, I have used pain as a corrective action quite a bit at work.

And where might you live? I am rather certain such methods are illegal.

In the Army

I think chick flicks, Barbara Streisand movies and movies including Sarah Jessica Parker would be the ultimate torment. Hell, the children would learn from that... or perhaps not the girls, hmm, I am not touching sexuality on this one, but I know that I would rather die than go through the afore mentioned form of torment/punishment.

you know what would torment any kid? forcing them to listen to justin bieber for an hour, thats right...

My boss is my mother, so that's easy.

Haha, or Rebecca Black. True.

Sounds like a cliché adults-being-filmed-while-engaging-in-sexual-activity setup, bloody censors..